Sexuality Archives | Dr. Les Kertay

Empowered sexuality in women I saw the video below for the first time, posted to Facebook by one of my loves. It’s about empowered sexuality in women, not men. Bear with me, I’ll get to the part about men. “Astonishingly beautiful.” That was my first thought. And then the second thought: “Why should it be astonishing to see women expressing themselves, sharing themselves freely?” No reason other than that it’s still something we have to fight for. So no, not…

Be Careful What You Ask For

Les Kertay

A Man's Perspective

If you ask a man to be more open about what he feels, beware the possibility that you might not like what he has to say. I am posting here about an article that appeared this morning on The Good Men Project titled Sex, Marriage, and the Silent Treatment. Whether you are a man or a woman, I encourage you to read it. I also encourage you to read the comments that follow it, along with the voluminous comments that have…

Making the World Safer for Women

Les Kertay

A Man's Perspective, Don't Be a Dick

I am tired of being seen as a threat. Tired of being evaluated by women when they look at me to discern whether I am a potential rapist, abuser, or just an average sexist cad. Tired of seeing mistrust in the eyes of mothers when I smile at a child’s happiness or play peekaboo to calm one who is having a hard time being still on the plane. I’m tired of it, I tell you. Just maybe not for the…

On marriage, writing, and writing about marriage

Les Kertay

Showing Up, Writing & stories & stuff

Sometimes the comments posted to online articles are as important as the article itself. This morning I read a blog post at The Good Men Project titled Marriage is No Fairy Tale. I liked it when I read it, but when I read the comments I saw something I didn’t expect. I saw that readers and writers interact in a way that can be either heartwarming or painful or both at once. I also saw the degree to which we tend…

Sexuality

Empowered Sexuality: For Men, Too?

Be Careful What You Ask For

Making the World Safer for Women

On marriage, writing, and writing about marriage