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Las Vegas – Is this what they mean by “the genuine heart of sadness?”

I can barely contain my tears today. Is this the genuine heart of sadness? I wrote that, and much of what follows, this morning in an email to a friend of nearly 50 years. Now I write it for you. All of you. Everyone. Even, maybe especially, those of you with whom I disagree about things that matter   When I woke Monday to the news from Las Vegas, I remember feeling first the suffering of all those people injured.…

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Life is just too short

Life is just too short to waste a moment of it. Really. Really, really. Too. Damn. Short. Let’s get this in perspective: if the entire 4.5-billion-year history of the earth were condensed down to a year: Humans (the genus homo) appeared today, about 4 hours, 52 minutes ago Archaic humans (subgenus homo) appeared 1 hour, 10 minutes ago Anatomically modern humans (homo sapiens) appeared 23 minutes, 21.6 seconds ago The average human lifespan in the US, as of 2015, is…

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Losing a child – The brief life of Gabriel Liam Kertay

Every year I tell myself I’m going to write a new post about losing a child. I never do. Today I realized that in this post, I left it all on the table. So I’m just going to republish it with a few minor changes. Because whether or not it needs saying, I want to say it. Fair warning, there is a lot of sadness in what follows – but also an abundance of joy. It was hard to write…

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Getting fired sucks

Getting fired sucks

It was official May 31. I got fired. Again. At least, that’s how it felt. Getting fired sucks, even when it’s not personal. Maybe especially then. I’d actually known since the 9th. That’s when the conversational rubicon was first crossed, that moment when it’s spoken aloud that the company perhaps can’t keep your role intact. That you might be consulting part time rather than employed. It’s not personal, it’s business. It’s revenue, or a new direction, or something, anything other…

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Healthcare policy

The magical thinking that passes for healthcare policy

The “debate” (read: ranting) about healthcare policy on my media feeds is – there is no other way to put this – mostly bullshit. At best, it’s magical thinking. At worst, it’s a cold-hearted, callous disregard for those who can least afford the “luxury” of participating in the most technologically advanced heath care delivery system in the world. (Note I didn’t say “the best,” but that’s a different post). Let’s get this one thing straight at the outset: this post isn’t…

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I agree, let’s make America great again

Because of a website hack that lost the original, I get to repost this article – and it seemed worth it, given the positives I heard and the intensity of current events surrounding the man who made the phrase, “Make America great again” into a “thing.”  Here’s the original post: I have a quixotic belief in finding common ground. I insist that there is a way to work together. The phrase “Make America great again” has become a caricature, but I believe…

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How to live a happier life

You can decide that you will live a happier life, starting right now. I think I can tell you how to live a happier life, unfailingly, in less than 900 words. I also believe that you can take this transformative step without medication, psychotherapy, coaching, or anything other than a decision. What’s not to like? There is a continuous cycle between our mindset (our expectations of the world), our behavior (how we act based on our mindset), our experience (how our…

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Closed borders won't making us safer, thinking might

Closed borders will not make us safer

The linked article about the Bastille attacker takes more time, than you might usuallly want to spend. Do it anyway. Thinking and reading might be the only thing that will make us safer. This article articulates everything that’s wrong, strategically if not morally, with what is happening at the stroke of President Trump’s pen. Closing our borders will not make us safer. Understanding might. The need for meaning can make us less safe Human beings have a remarkably strong, even…

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electoral college

Why abandoning the electoral college is a terrible idea – and what to do instead

Abandoning the electoral college is a terrible idea. Believing otherwise is magical thinking. Closing our eyes and wishing hard will not change the past any more than it did when we were children. I know it stings that Clinton won the popular vote by somewhere between 1 and 2 million votes; it stings me too. Abandoning the electoral college is NOT the answer. I’m unhappy about the outcome of this election, and I’ve vowed to do everything I can to (a) work…

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